I love when people disagree with me. Kind of.
Naturally, I would like people to see eye-to-eye with me on some issues. Primarily the issues on which I would like positive progress most urgently; matters like civil/human rights, attentive parenting, ethical behaviour toward the general populace and so forth.
Other than that, though, I love disagreements because few things fuel the progress and evolution of ideas like dissent.
Some people do not have the right frame of mind to disagree constructively, though.
I have come to enjoy encountering articles and people that disagree with me, so long as I go in with the attitude that two positive things could occur:
- I could have my point of view tested by argument and withstand the assault, perhaps swaying my opposition in my direction in the process.
- I could have my point of view tested by argument and fail to withstand the assault.
Why is the second option positive? I DO like to win, right?
If we are willing to question ourselves openly, when someone challenges your P.O.V. and creates doubt it exposes a whole new area for learning.
You become aware of something you can improve upon that you may have previously thought resolved.
The arguments that proved effective against you give you directions in which to move, to learn and improve.
In summary, I think learning to disagree and (even better) learning to be comfortable with losing a clash of opinions can be highly positive for our progress.
After all, what is the alternative? Insisting that we cling to fallacious beliefs, simply because our egos will not allow us to admit defeat.